Wendi/NVC

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Responses that don't work:

TELL ME WHAT TO DO

"Would you like to come over to the garden to do yoga?"

"Sorry, I can't, but you should still do it."



Requests that make sense: What can I do right now?


hopeless: I feel hopeless when I feel I have no influence over the characters in my reality--when it feels there are no solutions


Brownsville insight:

NVC is not about expecting others to conform to the rules of communication. It's about how I...

LISTEN:

  • with empathy, hearing feelings and needs only
  • to others and myelf
  • not taking anything personally
  • not hearing blame/criticism
  • not hearing "untrue" stories
  • not getting hurt or angry

PERCEIVE:

  • observing only, and not evaluating
  • not creating stories that do not support me having a more wonderful life
  • asking for clarification (from a "clean" place) and not making assumptions

LIVE MY LIFE WITH MY VALUES INTACT:

  • no commute
  • no processed foods
  • no TV
  • no dishonesty
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